How persuasive are you? Are you the one persuading others more often or is it the other way around? After all persuading has been said and done, do you like what you do next?

Whether you’re dealing (or arguing) with a superior, parent, child or a group that’s just thought-provoking, your power of persuasion must be the priority!

The Advantage of Being the Persuasive One

You’re missing out heaps if you don’t already realize the importance of the power of persuasion.

For starters, you can convince people—think of the most significant person you encounter at present. Is it your boss? Or someone back home? Being able to deal with this most important person will liberate yourself with all the rest.

Unknowingly, you may also be on your way to becoming an effective leader if you’re the persuasive one! How many people would you like to handle in your team, three or fifteen? Whose finances would you like to manage, your family’s or your company’s? The answer: it wouldn’t really matter, for you’re now given the opportunity to be a leader! Whether on a small or large scale, do your best with the chance given to you, from which most probably even better opportunities will come.

Start it at home. Practice a desirable way of communicating with your spouse, children and visitors. Don’t shut out ideas they’ll be expressing—this is a negative approach to a talk. Persuade as if you’d market yourself, motivating others to think and feel like you.

Standing out in a competitive environment also becomes a result of your diplomatic persuasion. This can happen anywhere—in your love life or workplace. Try it and you’ll surprisingly feel good, too!

It won’t be long before you become a credible person on a particular field. You can build a good reputation on a simple passion of yours too. Why? Because you have already thought things through. You have discovered arguments, generated questions, researched facts—way before others could even think of doing so.

You see, aside from being persuasive per se, you can broaden your knowledge about something and actually be helpful to others. Definitely win-win.

Here are three tips you can harness your power of persuasion.

1. Be in their shoes.

There’s no better setup than you having connection with the people around you. And that means in a positive and somewhat deep way. You wouldn’t want to sound like the (only) know-it-all kind of guy, who would desperately show more than just talking. Act naturally and don’t persuade people as if you were part of a play, right in their face—this could be a major turnoff. When they have lost interest in pretty much everything you have to say, you’ll barely have a chance to recover.

When you talk, you have to show them you manifest these two important values: understanding and respect. No matter what rises in an argument, stay positive about it—it’s a fundamental of the power of persuasion. Present and explain a solution, which everybody can use, to a problem.

You may not experience what they do, but it may not be wrong to act as if you do—the wonder of connection. By doing this, the solution you present on the table becomes authentic and unique at the same time.

2. Limits and consistency come hand in hand.

You’ll hardly be persuasive if you’re gutless and fickle on your argument.

Be firm.

Focus on three important points and raise them with confidence. Be aggressive on asking such that you use closed-ended questions. “When can I call and ask you about your choice?” is better than “Is it okay if I call you so we can discuss this further in case you change your mind?”

End your discussions reiterating what was agreed upon. “Awesome! It was nice meeting you. You chose a great plan and I’m excited to discussing this in detail next week!”

3. See it to believe it.

Persuasiveness is all about the basics. You can talk in frivolities; it’s perfectly fine and fun, too—but not all the time. Imagine how the people you talk to would react if you always spoke with humor. Unless you’re never aiming to use your power of persuasion, you can spend the rest of the day speaking in fluff.

Has it ever crossed your mind why the influential people you know love telling stories—especially their past accomplishments? Do you get irked and think they’re just arrogant when they do that? Take it easy. The answer may be precisely this—they’re simply trying to be persuasive!

Tell them a story about how you helped increase your company’s revenues. Or how you got promoted. Explain why and how you became victorious that eventually you established your name in a particular community. Don’t forget to be consistently positive in any argument. The point is that you may be trying to win a client, you may be hanging out with your good friends, you may be in your local area launching a program—whether you want them to choose you over the others or simply agree with a great idea that has dawned on you, this kind of “story-telling” becomes a big factor to your persuasiveness.

Think About It

Your power of persuasion was never innately available to you. It’s something you learn and eventually hone through your words, your actions, and your demeanor. If you think you’ve had just enough being the pushover, or if you just want to take control, and you’ve got bigger things in mind—try these three steps and everybody becomes happy!