Fear of failure is in many ways similar to fear of the unknown. To start with, they are both only a mental obstacle. Everybody knows failure is a certainly unpredictable event it can happen to anyone. Nobody can predict whether failure is bound to happen.
Overcoming fear of failure can feel overwhelmingly worse to anyone who already has a high level of the fear.
Imagine any type of fear that would make your knees tremble. Running away from that fear could be the most convenient option, considering the availability of other choices in which you can rather spend your time and energy. But what if you want only one thing in this world that would incidentally require you to overcome that fear?
I want you to break down the phrase “fear of failure” into its two entirely different parts: fear and failure. To understand what they mean, continue reading on.
Learn why you’re not overcoming fear of failure, why half of the term is a complete waste of time and energy, but the other half essential for success.
You don’t set goals.
Have you tried writing down your goals? If yes, have you been meeting your deadlines? Have you changed some of your habits for them?
Accomplishing your tasks is more than simply meeting deadlines. It’s a chain of needed actions inspired by the goals you’ve set according to your true passions.
Set your goals and get into the heart of any projects in line. Get your hands dirty to learn more. Setting goals is about getting yourself out there to experience and know the ups and downs of your commitments. Calm seas won’t make great sailors. You won’t fully understand your goals, or worse, you won’t know whether they’re actually the right ones, if you don’t go ahead and deal with them.
It may be easy to make plans or set goals, but executing them can be challenging. Just remember that simply completing any undertaking can be a sure way to reaching any kind of success.
You focus on your abilities more than your efforts.
Determine which abilities you would like to hone, but don’t spend your time daydreaming about their glory. Once they’re identified, focus instead on the “how” you would perfect them or in other words, your efforts.
Thinking about your abilities in any way, whether you’re satisfied with them or think they’re not good enough—doesn’t change them. In fact, research finds that positive fantasies people make about their future may deplete their energy to pursue them. Ideas on how you can improve those abilities may pop up in your head, but improvement doesn’t take place without the conscientious activities, efforts.
You take failure personally.
When you achieve one success, know that it won’t happen all the time. Failures are meant to happen. They only show you may be doing something wrong you have to learn your way around it.
Don’t think about failure as your weakness. It may disguise itself as an intruder on your self-esteem, but use it for your growth instead. It is a matter of perspective. Not only would your skills sharpen, but your character would also strengthen.
Strike a balance between your feelings and failure. Set your emotions aside as they may only hinder you from discovering effective solutions to a problem, but don’t go hard on yourself. Remember that failure can be your friend; it will help you grow, if you only allow it to. Taking a break isn’t bad if you want to temporarily distance yourself from the hassle; it’s actually healthy. But learn to synchronize failure with your feelings—they create a powerful synergy, if properly combined, to help you keep going.
You don’t get help when you truly need it.
Pride, the unreasonable self-esteem, won’t get you anywhere good, even if you were perfect. Always show humility. Acknowledge that at times you do need help.
Criticisms are sometimes a form of help. They may either sound inappropriate or motivational, but they can be available every time even without your consent. Be flexible with your environment. You can’t always get the results you expect. And as results can be unpredictable, so can people too; people are sometimes even more unpredictable.
Just remember to be receptive to any suggestions or criticisms you may encounter. They may be golden, they may just help you in overcoming fear of failure. You can never be sure.
You don’t do things differently.
If you can’t find success with Plan A, go with Plan B.
Do your best with an original plan, but consider factors such as time, energy or money to determine whether the plan is still feasible. Otherwise, opt for another plan that could be more viable. Remember as Bill Gates has said, success is a lousy teacher. Don’t be seduced into thinking you can’t lose. If a plan isn’t working, there must be another one better—find that.
You don’t live in the present.
If you haven’t heard about the “20-80 Rule,” it basically means you should spend only 20 percent of your time learning and 80 percent taking action. There are fast learners; there are slower ones. If you find learning to be a bit difficult, set the 20 percent as the maximum. Going less than that would be better, but when you think you’ve already reached 20 percent, it’s time to take action—no matter what.
As long as you have a plan set up, you won’t have any reasons to worry about the past and the future. Be attentive. Be ruthless learning. All in the moment. Every moment is a stepping stone for becoming who you want to be.
You don’t accept you’ve been trained to fear failure.
This isn’t to blame anyone, but think why all of us have the fear of failure in one way or another.
If you went to school, you know that almost right from the start, you’ve been given a low mark if you didn’t perform an assignment well. You have been conditioned to think about failure that way. Think how significantly you were influenced by that kind of thinking by the time you were entering adulthood.
But whether in school or not, society does tend to teach children to fear failure, however indirectly. Would you agree?
That is precisely why when you hear about a successful person, you immediately set your standards as high as theirs without appreciating how many failures they’ve gone through before reaching their success. Or basically if you want to do almost anything, you know you won’t get it the first time, but fear of failure would beat your intuition to tell you it’s simply unacceptable.
Society’s fault? If it’s a norm, then it may not necessarily be; however, acknowledging that it may be a reason for your fear of failure may totally change the game.
You don’t believe in yourself anymore.
Understanding how to overcome fear of failure won’t mean anything if you’ve already stopped believing in yourself. Be motivated. Be inspired by successful people. Most importantly, recognize your self-worth. Apply everything you have learned through right attitude and approach to life in general.
Believe in yourself. Who ever succeeded without doing so?
Think About It
Do you now see the irony when fear and failure are put together as a phrase?
Failure is inevitable. It only happens to test your character. Your quest for success doesn’t have to end with a failure, or multiple failures. All successful men and women have failed, but they used their failures to boost themselves rather than to stop. Those names won’t be heard of if they simply gave up. Why would you stop? Why would you give up?
Fear, on the other hand, is nothing but a foolish idea that would only stop you from becoming as great as you ever wanted. You can hide it from everyone; they may not notice it. But submitting to fear only leads you to inaction. Without fear, you may still fail, but in failure you learn. When you let fear take its toll, however, you will absolutely fail, for any action taken is an accomplishment, and doing nothing an instant failure.
Fear of failure limits success. You have to realize that failure has never been the problem. Letting fear paralyze you from fighting for your very own success is.
Speak Your Mind
How has overcoming fear of failure affected your life? Would you say you’ve become more of a risk taker now? Conquer the fear. Write what you think on the comments section below!