Have you been a lazy piece of gumball all your life? Are you the neurotic type that tends to sleep late at night…because you simply (and badly) need yourself entertained? Have you found the job you somehow don’t dislike at all but find it hard to get to work when it’s time to?
If you answered yes to all these questions, then yay, believe it or not, I used to be just like you—and sometimes still am. Even though I can tell I’ve changed a lot after deciding to take control of my life, I can’t fight the occasional relapse.
Sure, you might think it’s a good idea to give yourself some slack. You can’t be disciplined all the time, after all.
But one thing I hate is that whenever I fall back into being that lazy piece of gumball…and not doing what I should be doing—I waste the whole freaking day. Busy during the day? No problem, let’s do it the whole night until dawn, then. Great.
With this setup, Mondays become the worst days ever.
Why Sundays Are Evil
I know. Relax. Hear me out first.
Before I explain why I’m starting to hate Sundays, however, I want to make it clear that I’ve been nothing but thankful for the gift of working on improving myself continuously…especially on weekdays.
You see, I used to hate work. But that’s mainly because I hated the job. These days I do work that, I believe, supports my purpose. I don’t love everything about it, but there’s simply that one thing you must be doing more than anything else.
Anyway, if you hate Mondays, I’ll tell you one good reason for that.
It’s because weekends break your routine of order.
Now you might say you’re not really disciplined, but—especially if you have a job—you still manage to meet the minimum required effort to get up to the alarm, eat, shower, and not be late at work. That’s something.
Think about it. If you can make ways for your survival—every damn day—then you can’t say you absolutely don’t have some sort of self-discipline.
You have the routine, which by the way keeps you sane. That you hate your job and are thinking about changing companies or careers is an entirely different topic. But the point is that from Monday to Friday, you can do stuff you need to do. You can bear the routine.
But then there are weekends. What are they all about? They should be for relaxing. Most of the time, we allow ourselves to just do anything that should compensate for all the wonderful things we sacrifice on workdays.
This creates chaos, which is the opposite of the order you observe on the regular.
Suddenly you don’t know what to do, when there’s also an infinite number of things you can.
You could plan, but if you’re like me, you don’t really like planning what to do on playday. It’s Sunday. If I feel like staying home, I’ll stay home. Oh, I want to grab some beers. It’s been a hell of a week. LET’S GO.
Anything goes. When you’re recovering especially from a draining week, the last thing you may want to do is push your exhausted body to go to that supposedly fun social gathering.
That’s why weekends are evil. Especially if you’ve decided to avoid meaningless activities already, or those that you think don’t contribute to your growth anymore.
Weekends tend to demolish the order you build on the previous five or six days. Weekends tease you to once again be that person who wastes time just for today. Weekends can even be depressing as they alter the momentum. And weekends are just too damn long for such downtime.
However, I’m not saying they’re all evil. They should be time spent with loved ones and friends, in high resolution. They are for rest. Weekends can be amazing.
But you have to find balance. You don’t want to detest Mondays.
How to Make Suckin’ Mondays Unsuck for Good
Over the years, I’ve found three ways to “like” Mondays the way I like the other days. If you terribly hate Mondays it alters the way you function already, then these tips should help.
1. Make sure you get enough sleep.
I used to be a goddamned super-owl. All my life I preferred to sleep in, mainly because I had some sort of fear of missing out (FOMO), that I would surf the internet up until who knew when. It got better when I went out with friends to get tanked up.
Forget about “eight hours of sleep” for now. If you tend to take long naps on Sundays, and are also an owl—then you’ll find it hard to complete those eight hours.
I make sure I don’t sleep for less than six hours when that happens. Say, if I slept for the whole day yesterday (Sunday), I find that I can still have a reasonably okay state of mind if I only had six hours of sleep upon braving Monday.
There’s also the case for the gifted people who can still be humans, not zombies, after only having four-ish hours of sleep.
The bottom line is that sleep is one thing you must not compromise in facing another Monday. You may have the best weekend party, but you would rather not waste the whole Monday just because “you’re not feeling it.”
2. Physical exercise.
This one is hard especially when you’re only starting out.
I would trade exercise time for work time. Heck, I would even trade it for TV time with my favorite nephew.
But we’re talking about a cunning adversary here: Monday.
The trick is that when you don’t feel good about something you can’t avoid, you change the way you feel. Physical exercise—the more vigorous the better—is without a doubt the best way to do it. Definitely better than reading motivational quotes or your favorite music blasting out.
Don’t think about anything else. Just go do some exercise. If you’re an able and healthy person, be grateful for and treat your body with the gift of workout.
Make sure your muscles hurt (in a good way) and you sweat real hard. Make sure to do strength training and cardiovascular training. You don’t need the gym.
Exercise makes you feel good. That’s just as important as its physical effects. You might be surprised that even though Mondays real suck as hell, you’re suddenly feeling great, without any “reasons” except that you simply allowed your body to do its job—gracefully. That’s simply endorphins. That’s simply science.
Doing this on Monday mornings is like switching my “system of order” on.
3. Remind yourself why you’re here.
If you need to always see photos of your loved ones, then put some on your desk. If you have a goal like staying in Paris for six months, then change your wallpaper. If you want to support a nonprofit, then make a friend there and hang out regularly.
We’re visual creatures. We also have unreliable brains.
Set up your environment, as much as you can, to always remind you of your purpose.
If you have a big enough reason to keep going, then how can Mondays suck any further? How can you still jump on the “I freakin’ hate Mondays” bandwagon?
Mondays then become that regular day a lot of people seem to hate, and these people can now only convince you.
It’s not the case to you anymore. Mondays are just the fad that doesn’t ever go away. It’s a thing you don’t subscribe to. It’s just Monday.
Body First, and Then Mind, and Then Mondays
I got fed up with the “just think positive” kind of advice.
At the end of the day, you won’t feel and think well if your physical body isn’t being taken care of.
That’s the reason the body and mind are one. You simply can’t rely on choosing your thoughts to convince yourself that today isn’t a bad day. Eliminate the convincing. Just move. We’re born to do it, anyway.
The core of it all is that you should be in your best state to handle anything that comes your way.
Facing Mondays is a great habit, too. Imagine the rest of your life in which you actually enjoy and even look forward to Mondays—to starting the week right! Without the drama and unnecessarily exerting self-control.
Now you only have to mind what you really must be doing, to the letter. That’s how you attain excellence.
(Image Credit: Marifer)