It’s hard to both wake up and go to bed—on time and a bit earlier than you’re used to… because you’ve been passively living your life, as if you would merely accept things as they are, without at least trying to forge a path you might like. You’re heading to one in which someone else runs the show, and you don’t even know it.
It’s hard to identify the things you love doing… because you haven’t discovered your identity yet. You still don’t know who you are. You don’t know what makes you tick. You don’t know where that spatial and timely spot in the universe is in which everything feels just right.
Imagine a creature that wakes up every day to do nothing but gossip about you, try to destroy your reputation, and put you down at every chance they get…in general. Wouldn’t it be so satisfying to punch them in the face, yell at them until your soul breaks loose, and counterattack with each attack they’ve made and so much more?
Did you find that upsetting? I’ve been there. I’ve been that angry in my life. But I can say I’m not that angry anymore at this point…
Anger is a powerful emotion. So powerful that if you’re not careful about the actions you take while it’s clouding your mind, you could suffer unbelievably terrible consequences for the rest of your life.
Ain’t it just a bitch to deal with those toxic people? You know, people that grind your gear? People that just don’t know how to be positive even just on that really short moment you share with them? But…if you usually sound like that (in your head, hopefully) then let me tell you that you are a toxic creature, too.
Oxford Dictionaries has chosen “toxic” as the word of the year for 2018. Last time I checked, “toxic” is used for poisonous substances. Nowadays, however, anything—or anyone—can be toxic, even as literally as poison.
There’s no way you can remove stress from your life. You won’t be able to get rid of all of your stressors, all the time. If you think you’ve been “failing” on that part—on not being capable of avoiding the ever-present nuisance that is stress—perhaps you’ve only been dealing with it the wrong way.
It sucks. But the good news is that there are healthy ways to deal with stress.
Not All Stress Is Bad
It’s an evolutionary fact that stress yields the fight-or-flight response. In other words, stress makes us uncomfortable—sometimes sweaty-much uncomfortable—just so we could get out of our zone to think of solutions for a potentially dangerous situation.
Have you been a lazy piece of gumball all your life? Are you the neurotic type that tends to sleep late at night…because you simply (and badly) need yourself entertained? Have you found the job you somehow don’t dislike at all but find it hard to get to work when it’s time to?
If you answered yes to all these questions, then yay, believe it or not, I used to be just like you—and sometimes still am. Even though I can tell I’ve changed a lot after deciding to take control of my life, I can’t fight the occasional relapse.