There’s no way you can remove stress from your life. You won’t be able to get rid of all of your stressors, all the time. If you think you’ve been “failing” on that part—on not being capable of avoiding the ever-present nuisance that is stress—perhaps you’ve only been dealing with it the wrong way.
It sucks. But the good news is that there are healthy ways to deal with stress.
Not All Stress Is Bad
It’s an evolutionary fact that stress yields the fight-or-flight response. In other words, stress makes us uncomfortable—sometimes sweaty-much uncomfortable—just so we could get out of our zone to think of solutions for a potentially dangerous situation.
Have you been a lazy piece of gumball all your life? Are you the neurotic type that tends to sleep late at night…because you simply (and badly) need yourself entertained? Have you found the job you somehow don’t dislike at all but find it hard to get to work when it’s time to?
If you answered yes to all these questions, then yay, believe it or not, I used to be just like you—and sometimes still am. Even though I can tell I’ve changed a lot after deciding to take control of my life, I can’t fight the occasional relapse.
If I asked you, “Can you say you don’t have any regrets in your life?” what would you say? I would then annoy you with a follow-up question, “Are you sure?” Then you might think I’m being condescending, but the truth is I only wanted you to rethink whether you understand what it really means to have regrets.
In this article I want to shed light on all the (hopefully helpful) mantras we hear everywhere:
No regrets! YOLO! Carpe diem!
What’s the fuss all about? Do people who say them or have them tattooed on their foreheads know what’s up? Or are they just wanting to do something “daring,” at the risk of having even more regrets?
How are you? Hope you’re doing just fine. Perhaps more importantly, I hope you’re feeling fine. I don’t mean to sound intrusive. I just want you to be aware, for a second, how you’re truly feeling right now.
Because if you’re feeling anything but great—or at least fine—you probably woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
But what does “waking up on the wrong side of the bed” mean?
Have you ever stopped to think—amidst your busy day, routine, or drudgery perhaps—what’s more of a priority: happiness or meaning?
On one hand, you might be thinking you’re fully happy, you could want nothing more. Perhaps you have everything you need. Perhaps you don’t have to work like many people.
On the other hand, you might be feeling a bit of the opposite—you’re not necessarily happy—in fact, you might be suffering from some sort of adversity. It could be a physical or an emotional sickness.
- What Is a Life Purpose?
- The Two Components of a Life Purpose
- How We Are Hardwired
- How to Find Your Purpose in Life
- More Questions that Might Help
- Misconceptions / Myths about Life Purpose
- How to Stay on the Right Track
You must be looking for ways to find your purpose in life. For that reason alone, you deserve a pat on the back.
You’re on your way to discover what it means to live fully.
I’ve gotta tell you—many people simply carry on without having at least one reason to live.
Many haven’t taken the time (and it could be seriously short time) to stop and do nothing but contemplate what’s been going on in their lives, and notice the emergence of some sort of purpose.
To say that having a session of overthinking—thinking too much—from time to time might not be that bad. Overthinking, that dreaded term. We know that it doesn’t really help, it only leads to headache, it’s hassling.
Yet we do it, perhaps for fear of being called an idiot for a wrong decision made.
I’ve said in other posts that I myself tend to overthink. I’ve yet to discover why. Maybe visiting someone who knows about this stuff (a shrink?) might help. That’d be an awesome experience to look forward to.
(Image: Chris Fort)
The world is full of uncertainties—whether they’re perceived or just real.
Have you mastered how to find peace of mind already?
It all starts when you wake up. If you’re not a morning person like me, turning the alarm clock off is a curse. What happens if I didn’t go to work today?
You hurriedly eat your breakfast, while thinking you shouldn’t be late at work today.
Doesn’t gratefulness just feel good? When you’re grateful, you’re reminded of the things worth looking forward to; everything seems to make sense.
There are a lot of things to be grateful for. We can get benefits simply from being grateful.
Research shows that gratitude can increase happiness by 25%. Gratitude encourages the enjoyment of positive experiences, helps improve relationships with other people, and lessens negative feelings.
If you’re content, you should know what happiness means.
The problem I see with a lot of people, including myself, is the attitude toward contentment. The question is usually whether one actually wants to become content or not.
I used to have a vague idea on how to be content. I thought I knew exactly what it was like. But I realized I didn’t get it right.
I based contentment on the accomplishment of goals, or achievements. I had to feel content if I succeeded in some endeavor. I felt content if I have proved something about myself.
I never really knew why I had that kind of thinking.