Who doesn’t want respect? Whoever you are, you’d want—or need—respect, in one way or another. It doesn’t really matter whether you’re a “someone” in a semipolitical culture, or the new kid on the block … far, far away from home.
People will either respect you or not.
When everything seems irreversibly wrong, however, especially when you find yourself alone, do you still know how to respect yourself? Like, when the people you used to trust turned their back on you? Or—they simply showed you who they really are, only different from how you’ve known them?
Sometimes, facing criticism is simply hard.
The very first criticisms you’ve ever heard might’ve been alright, but as you get older, as your responsibilities abound, as the day gets longer, criticisms could just wear you out. The message may be well-intended, but you begin to notice the tone that message is delivered with, and then you think—quite differently—about the person who says it.
The good news, however, is you can learn how to deal with criticism like a boss. Even if generally, criticisms bear the red flag. Even if they’re vague. Even if they’re ridiculous. Who wants criticism? Who wants to be criticized? Who loves critical people?
“You can have all the tools in the world but if you don’t genuinely believe in yourself, it’s useless.” – Ken Jeong
Do you still know how to believe in yourself, especially when the tough gets going?
Let’s pretend that you’d like to learn how to play the guitar.
And that you’re only 12 years old.
You start looking for and watching videos of your favorite rock, or jazz, or classical, guitarists. You start imitating them. You get dumbfounded by their skills, and there will be days you’ll just put your earphones on and daydream you were them, song after song—for minutes, if not for hours.
A lot of people simply don’t know how to stop negative thoughts from coming in. What amazes me, however, is even more people don’t know why they should stop negative thoughts in the first place.
The world offers so much for us to discover. Circumstances happen to us for great reasons—think personal growth! So many things can catch us by surprise, with which we can simply manifest joy and gratitude.
Yet, at times, we allow negative thoughts to win.
Amazing how we just give in to them, isn’t it?
But I have good news for you: We can learn how to stop negative thoughts—with a bit of patience, persistence and practice.
You may not be aware of it. It may be something you wouldn’t really bother to know.
But what does having low emotional intelligence imply? Does having it mean disaster?